A diversity, inclusion and belonging "ally" is someone who is willing to take action in support of another person, in order to remove barriers that impede that person from contributing their skills and talents in the workplace or community.
Being an ally is a verb, this means that you proactively and purposefully take action and is not something forced upon you.
How to be an ally
It is not required to be an ally to work at GitLab. At GitLab it is required to be inclusive.
Being an ally goes a step beyond being inclusive to taking action to support marginalized groups. The first step in being an ally is self-educating.
This ally lab with provide you with some of the tools, resources and learning activities to help you grow as an ally.
Skills and Behaviours of allies
To be an effective ally it is important to understand some of the skills and behaviours great allies exhibit.
Neutral and nonjudgmental.
Patient (periods of silence are not "filled")
Verbal and nonverbal feedback to show signs of listening (e.g., smiling, eye contact, leaning in, mirroring)
Reflecting back what is said.
Asking for clarification.
Empathy & Emotional Intelligence
An example of this could be: A colleague comes to you and tells you that their pronouns are being misused often at work and it is making them feel uncomfortable and they are avoiding social calls and interactions. Whilst you haven’t experienced this yourself and unlikely you would experience this, you allow yourself to think of situations where you have felt uncomfortable at work before. You also put yourself consciously into the shoes of your colleague and think of a way you can practically help. You offer to your colleague that in the next 5 calls they participate in you will be on the call and actively point out misuse of their pronouns to other colleagues to take away some of the emotional burden.
Active learning about other experiences
You go beyond performative actions for example black squares on instagram for Black Lives Matter, but actively does the work to understand the pain, struggle and experience of those burdened.
This could look like: You are managing black team members, an incident has occurred externally that could effect the mental health of those team members. You actively research the experience and historical context of the trauma associated with incident. You use this to ensure you are informed and able to appropriate apply empathy if a team member approaches you to ask for assistance.
Willingingness to take on feedback
You aren’t going to get it right all the time and you have to be ok with that. Be willing to take feedback on and not let it deter you from continuing to be an ally.
Example of this could be: You are in a safe space with an underrepresented group acting as an ally and absorbing information. A point comes up that you are passionate about and you talk over someone in the group and take over the conversation. After the meeting someone from the group jumps on a zoom meeting with you and explains that it felt you took away the viewpoints of a number of people from the URG because you took over the conversation and interrupted an individual. You apologise, take on the feedback, ask for any tips on how to make sure it doesn’t happen again and take necessary steps. — One of the mistakes that often happens here is being defensive or justifying the action. The group will already know you are operating with good intent but generally are wanting to help you level up in there lived experience.
Comfortable getting uncomfortable
Speak up where others don't or can't
The empathy example is also a good example of this.
Own and use your privilege
This could look like: You are in a product meeting and the meeting will be making critical decisions about the product roadmap for the next three months and you notice that everyone in the meeting is of the same gender and race. You use your privilege situation in the meeting to point this out and ask the people in the meeting. Who should be invited to ensure we are getting a diverse perspective and viewpoint on the agenda items for the meeting?
You see something, you say something
The example above is a good example of this: Ensure decisions and conversations have diverse voices. I.E. you are in a meeting and everyone looks the same, insist on other perspectives.
In a group setting when a discussion or comment is verbalized that could be controversial use language similar to this to course correct the conversation:
"I would like us all to be aware of our language and/or acknowledgements and ensure we are being respectful to all individuals. Thank you."
"I am practicing being an ally and as a reminder I would like to ensure we are all using inclusive language"
What it means to be an ally
Take on the struggle as your own
Stand up, even when you feel uncomfortable
Transfer the benefits of your privilege to those who lack it
Acknowledge that while you, too, feel pain, the conversation is not about you
Concepts & Terms
Privilege: an unearned advantage given to some people but not all
Oppression: systemic inequality present throughout society that benefits people with more privilege and is a disadvantage to those with fewer privileges
Ally: a member of a social group that has some privilege, that is working to end oppression and understands their own privilege
Power: The ability to control circumstances or access to resources and/or privileges
Marginalized groups: a person or group that are treated as unimportant, insignificant or of lower status. In a workplace setting, employees could be treated as invisible, as if they aren't there or their skills or talents are unwelcome or unnecessary
Performative allyship: referring to allyship that is done to increase a persons social capital rather than because of persons devotion to a cause. For example some people used #metoo during the Me Too movement, without actually bringing more awareness or trying to effect change.
Tips on being an ally
Identifying your power and privilege helps you act as an ally more effectively
Follow and support those as much as possible from marginalized groups
When you make a mistake, apologize, correct yourself, and move on
Allies spend time educating themselves and use the knowledge to help
Allies take the time to think and analyze the situation
Allies try to understand Perception vs. Reality
Allies don’t stop with their power they also leverage others powers of authority
Anyone can become certified in GitLab Ally Training. To obtain certification, you will need to complete this Being an Ally knowledge assessment and earn at least an 80%. Once the quiz has been passed, you will receive an email with your certification that you can share on your personal LinkedIn or Twitter pages. If you have questions, please reach out to our L&D team at email@example.com.
External Ally Training
There are some essential skills that are required to be an ally, here are a number of trainings that will help you enhance your allyship skills. Some of these are not allyship specific but will sharpen your skills in those important areas.